by Chris | Sep 29, 2021 | 12-Step Sponsorship, Eighth Step, Getting Sober, Ninth Step, Sponsorship/Mentorship, The Twelve Steps
I’ve written about how going it alone in recovery without support, guidance, and direction from a sponsor for a ninth-step amends process led to my relapse and the demoralization of myself and those around me. This humiliating experience was necessary for me to let go...
by Chris | Sep 22, 2021 | Addiction, Getting Sober, Pornography & Sexual Addiction, Sex/Pornography
Within recovery, we rely on various metaphors, idioms, and analogies as helpful tools. For example, there is the “ladder” that one must “climb” toward sobriety. Likewise, there are “battles” that must be “fought.” And then there is the “circle plan,” which is popular...
by Chris | Sep 15, 2021 | Eleventh Step, Help from the Saints, Prayer, Prayer & Scripture Reflections, Saints—On Earth & in Heaven, Spiritual Tools
Step 11 – “Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God.” Coming from a background in Evangelical Christianity, I was always cautious when hearing someone talk about meditation because I had learned to equate the word with New...
by Chris | Sep 1, 2021 | Family, Spiritual Tools
At some point quite a few years back, I set up a meeting with my pastor to talk about my life and, in particular, my use of pornography. I don’t remember much about the conversation, but I do remember that he gave me a book titled Unbound that I read and enjoyed. This...
by Chris | Aug 25, 2021 | Addiction, Alcohol & Drug Addiction, Drugs, Family, Getting Sober, Ninth Step, Relapse
Step 9 – Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others. The ninth step meant something quite different to me during my first attempt to work the steps. And as a result of my insane thinking and lack of...
