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Recovering a True Understanding of God through the Steps
I remember my first run through a recovery program. I did not start with SA (Sexaholics Anonymous) but with a program called Celebrate Recovery (CR), which is a Bible-based 12-step program. Most attendees were non-denominational Christians, those seeking recovery from...
“The Screwtape Letters’” Valuable Insights for Addiction Recovery
During my own recovery, I have found C.S. Lewis’ The Screwtape Letters to be particularly useful in navigating the emotional fallout from a relapse as well as an aid during periods of temptation. The Screwtape Letters is a fictional work detailing a collection of...
Trevor’s Testimonial
As a drummer, Trevor grew up idolizing some of the greatest drummers in the music business. And while he admired their sheer musical talent, many of them weren't exactly the best role models in other ways. “From a younger age my idols were drummers but some of them...
The Vital Role of a Sponsor: Being a Gift of Service
I’ve written about how going it alone in recovery without support, guidance, and direction from a sponsor for a ninth-step amends process led to my relapse and the demoralization of myself and those around me. This humiliating experience was necessary for me to let go...
Using the “Circle Plan” to Overcome Sexual Addictions
Within recovery, we rely on various metaphors, idioms, and analogies as helpful tools. For example, there is the “ladder” that one must “climb” toward sobriety. Likewise, there are “battles” that must be “fought.” And then there is the “circle plan,” which is popular...
Advice for Improving Our Conscious Contact with God in Step 11
Step 11 - “Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God.” Coming from a background in Evangelical Christianity, I was always cautious when hearing someone talk about meditation because I had learned to equate the word with New Age...
Trusting in Divine Providence No Matter Our Circumstances
We might know in our minds that God has the attributes of being all present, all knowing, all loving, and all merciful. But if we can come to know these also in our hearts, then I believe it becomes easier to trust in Divine Providence. And knowing that we’re living...
Let Jesus Heal You through Heart of the Father Ministries
At some point quite a few years back, I set up a meeting with my pastor to talk about my life and, in particular, my use of pornography. I don’t remember much about the conversation, but I do remember that he gave me a book titled Unbound that I read and enjoyed. This...
The Wrong (and Right) Way to Make a Step Nine Amends
Step 9 - Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others. The ninth step meant something quite different to me during my first attempt to work the steps. And as a result of my insane thinking and lack of...
María’s Testimonial
A combination of faith and fear prevented me from drinking alcohol until my late 20s. I eventually started having wine and beer at family gatherings and dinner parties for one reason: I wanted to feel like I belonged. Within six months, my drinking had become a...
Recovering a True Understanding of God through the Steps
I remember my first run through a recovery program. I did not start with SA (Sexaholics Anonymous) but with a program called Celebrate Recovery (CR), which is a Bible-based 12-step program. Most attendees were non-denominational Christians, those seeking recovery from...
“The Screwtape Letters’” Valuable Insights for Addiction Recovery
During my own recovery, I have found C.S. Lewis’ The Screwtape Letters to be particularly useful in navigating the emotional fallout from a relapse as well as an aid during periods of temptation. The Screwtape Letters is a fictional work detailing a collection of...
Trevor’s Testimonial
As a drummer, Trevor grew up idolizing some of the greatest drummers in the music business. And while he admired their sheer musical talent, many of them weren't exactly the best role models in other ways. “From a younger age my idols were drummers but some of them...
The Vital Role of a Sponsor: Being a Gift of Service
I’ve written about how going it alone in recovery without support, guidance, and direction from a sponsor for a ninth-step amends process led to my relapse and the demoralization of myself and those around me. This humiliating experience was necessary for me to let go...
Using the “Circle Plan” to Overcome Sexual Addictions
Within recovery, we rely on various metaphors, idioms, and analogies as helpful tools. For example, there is the “ladder” that one must “climb” toward sobriety. Likewise, there are “battles” that must be “fought.” And then there is the “circle plan,” which is popular...
Advice for Improving Our Conscious Contact with God in Step 11
Step 11 - “Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God.” Coming from a background in Evangelical Christianity, I was always cautious when hearing someone talk about meditation because I had learned to equate the word with New Age...
Trusting in Divine Providence No Matter Our Circumstances
We might know in our minds that God has the attributes of being all present, all knowing, all loving, and all merciful. But if we can come to know these also in our hearts, then I believe it becomes easier to trust in Divine Providence. And knowing that we’re living...
Let Jesus Heal You through Heart of the Father Ministries
At some point quite a few years back, I set up a meeting with my pastor to talk about my life and, in particular, my use of pornography. I don’t remember much about the conversation, but I do remember that he gave me a book titled Unbound that I read and enjoyed. This...
The Wrong (and Right) Way to Make a Step Nine Amends
Step 9 - Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others. The ninth step meant something quite different to me during my first attempt to work the steps. And as a result of my insane thinking and lack of...
María’s Testimonial
A combination of faith and fear prevented me from drinking alcohol until my late 20s. I eventually started having wine and beer at family gatherings and dinner parties for one reason: I wanted to feel like I belonged. Within six months, my drinking had become a...