Getting Sober

The Body Keeps Score: Real Recovery Includes Emotional Healing

When I started recovery, the stories that people told me about both their addictions and the families they came from fascinated me. As a man named “Dan” once said, “My family put the fun in dys-FUN-ction.”  Over and over again at 12-step meetings, I have heard people mention the early roots of their addiction—being sexually…

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A Step Forward After Relapse

The chicken fat dripped onto the charcoals and sizzled and flared and smoked. And the baseball game was loud on the radio. The announcer between play by play activity talked about a frosty cold bottle of beer. Those simple words ended months of sobriety.  It must be admitted that that first beer tasted so good.…

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Hearing the Voice of God in the Voice of Others

When in the rooms of recovery, you often hear how people are depending on each other for support not only in staying sober, but for handling the difficult situations of life. The Twelve Steps are meant to guide us towards a God-reliance, which can be difficult to have without the help of others. Others Can…

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A Step Two Reflection: The Gateway to Hope

Step Two: Came to believe that a power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity. I remember telling my sponsor early on that the first few steps in my 12-step program didn’t pose much of a challenge to me because I already believe in a “Higher Power.” I didn’t think that the spiritual aspect…

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The Rosary Killed My Porn Addiction

According to pious tradition, Our Lady gave 15 promises to those who would pray the rosary with real devotion. Three of those promises are signal graces, an armor against hell, and the destruction of vice. To overcome my addiction to pornography I needed the Mother of God to keep all three of those promises. In…

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