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Recovering from the Private Killer of Porn Addiction

It was a catastrophic personal event that plunged me into three years of intense habitual and addictive behavior that needed to be addressed. It was then that I finally recognized my addiction needed to be stopped.  Downloading porn videos and images as well as participating in sex chats—all are obvious markers of addiction. And I…

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Why Being Sober Wasn’t Enough to Keep Me From Being Miserable

After I first became sober I thought that I’m better now. I can handle it. I had been in AA for years and attended hundreds, maybe thousands, of meetings. I had volunteered, read the Big Book, and the Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions, and worked through the Twelve Steps with a sponsor. I had learned…

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5 Strategies for Overcoming an Addiction to Porn and Masturbation

Before discussing five strategies that help me stay clean with regard to porn and masturbation, let me start by explaining that nothing short of the grace and mercy of God ever worked in helping me experience victory over this ongoing battle, which spanned over 40 years. Only God can ultimately free us.  I’ve spent a…

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Remembering the Truth of Christmas In Order to Stay Sober

The snow falls quietly. And slowly all is covered and blanketed in whiteness. The cold of winter is in the air, and it gets in your bones when outside. There is the anticipation of the holidays and all of the hopes and dreams of Christmas that come with the onset of the cold weather and…

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One Woman Finds Recovery from Addiction through God’s Grace

I never wanted to stop drinking. I loved to drink. I realized I was an alcoholic in my 20s when I was in school in New York. I remember telling this to my brother, to which he responded, “You think?” I grew up in a middle-class home in northern Virginia. My parents never drank. In…

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The Power of “The Serenity Prayer”

“The Serenity Prayer”  God, Grant me the Serenity To accept the things I cannot change, Courage to change the things that I can And Wisdom to know the difference.  Living one day at a time, Enjoying one moment at a time, Accepting hardship as the pathway to peace. Taking, as He did, this sinful world…

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A Step Twelve Reflection: Giving Away What We Have Been Given

Step Twelve: Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to alcoholics, and to practice these principles in all our affairs. If I could sum up Step Twelve in a very basic way, I would say it like this: to do your twelfth step you must…

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The Body Keeps Score: Real Recovery Includes Emotional Healing

When I started recovery, the stories that people told me about both their addictions and the families they came from fascinated me. As a man named “Dan” once said, “My family put the fun in dys-FUN-ction.”  Over and over again at 12-step meetings, I have heard people mention the early roots of their addiction—being sexually…

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A Step Forward After Relapse

The chicken fat dripped onto the charcoals and sizzled and flared and smoked. And the baseball game was loud on the radio. The announcer between play by play activity talked about a frosty cold bottle of beer. Those simple words ended months of sobriety.  It must be admitted that that first beer tasted so good.…

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