It was an argument over a grocery order. My husband and I were in the early days of my discovering his lust-driven secret life. Because he did not choose to disclose to me all of his deception at once—a concept called “trickle truth”—it seemed that every time I turned...
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Courage to Share: Going to Meetings When the Lust Addict Is Your Spouse
Feb 28, 2024 | Loved One of an Addict, Pornography & Sexual Addiction, Sex/Pornography | 0 Comments
As I entered my first meeting for family and friends of lust addicts, I looked around the room and studied the faces there, wondering if they would understand. After all, I had a secret in addition to how lust addiction was affecting my marriage, but it was such a...
Why Doesn’t He Want Me? Rejection in the Lust-affected Marriage
Oct 11, 2023 | Family, Loved One of an Addict, Pornography & Sexual Addiction, Sex/Pornography | 0 Comments
We still hadn’t even finished writing out the thank you notes for the wedding gifts when the effects of my husband’s lust addiction first hit hard. We had been married for less than three months. It was a rainy Friday night, and I’d made it home from work first. I’d...
Words to Know: Vocabulary for Lust Addict’s Family and Friends
Sep 27, 2023 | Loved One of an Addict, Pornography & Sexual Addiction, Sex/Pornography | 0 Comments
The night I visited my first meeting for family and friends of lust addicts, I heard so many new terms in the space of that hour that, for a second, I wondered if I’d landed on another planet. None of the words were exactly foreign, but the folks in that meeting used...
Should I Stay or Should I Go? Lust Addiction and the Catholic Marriage
Sep 13, 2023 | Family, Loved One of an Addict, Pornography & Sexual Addiction, Sex/Pornography | 0 Comments
I remember being at a Catholic spirituality conference the summer before I got married. The conference included a time of Eucharistic adoration, and so in the silence of that space, I did what any faithful Catholic fiancée would do and opened up to God about my fears....
Aren’t I Pretty Enough? 3 Things to Remember When You Love a Lust Addict
Jul 26, 2023 | Family, Loved One of an Addict, Pornography & Sexual Addiction, Sex/Pornography | 0 Comments
My forty-sixth birthday had just passed. I looked in the mirror on my husband’s side of the room. He was in the bathroom, and his was the only mirror available. I pressed my fingertips to the sides of my cheeks. There was no denying it: my laugh lines, the parentheses...
There’s Something About Mary: How the Blessed Mother Is Leading Me Back to the Church
Jul 12, 2023 | God, Help from the Saints, Personal Testimonies, Personal Testimony, Pornography & Sexual Addiction, Saints—On Earth & in Heaven, Sex/Pornography, The Blessed Mother | 0 Comments
Ever since I can remember, there was always something about Mary that drew me in. I would never share this with any non-Catholic but the truth is I’ve only recently felt drawn to God the Father and Jesus. The Holy Spirit, despite being somewhat nebulous and...
If He’s the Porn Addict, Why Do I Need a Recovery Meeting?
Jun 28, 2023 | Family, Loved One of an Addict, Pornography & Sexual Addiction, Sex/Pornography | 0 Comments
When I had been dating my husband for about three months, I told him I was getting concerned about our relationship. I was feeling like he wasn’t listening to me as much as I was listening to him, and I was wondering if we could address this so we could work things...
Dante and Recovery Part 3: Vice, Virtue, and Character Defects (Cont.)
Mar 15, 2023 | General, Help from the Saints, Pornography & Sexual Addiction, Saints—On Earth & in Heaven, Sex/Pornography, The Blessed Mother | 0 Comments
In the previous article, we journeyed with Dante from the first terrace of Mt. Purgatory to the fourth, covering the sins or character defects of pride, envy, wrath, and sloth. Dante sees firsthand how the souls are purified from their attachments to particular sins...
Beauty, Eros, and Why Pornography Is So Hard to Overcome
Feb 14, 2023 | Pornography & Sexual Addiction, Sex/Pornography | 0 Comments
In his writings, Saint Thomas Aquinas describes sight to be the principal and primary of all the senses. His reasoning is that when we open our eyes and look at something, we are immediately abstracting—taking into our minds—what we see and rearranging it in an...