“Lord, please don’t let me lose my love for my husband,” I would pray. After years of living with a man with active alcoholism, I felt anything but loving. In fact, I was often in despair, full of fear, grief, and resentment, and on my knees with this prayer on my...
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How Can I Tell My Husband Is Lying? How to Trust a Lust Addict
Jun 12, 2024 | Family, Loved One of an Addict, Pornography & Sexual Addiction, Sex/Pornography | 0 Comments
It was an argument over a grocery order. My husband and I were in the early days of my discovering his lust-driven secret life. Because he did not choose to disclose to me all of his deception at once—a concept called “trickle truth”—it seemed that every time I turned...
Why Doesn’t He Want Me? Rejection in the Lust-affected Marriage
Oct 11, 2023 | Family, Loved One of an Addict, Pornography & Sexual Addiction, Sex/Pornography | 0 Comments
We still hadn’t even finished writing out the thank you notes for the wedding gifts when the effects of my husband’s lust addiction first hit hard. We had been married for less than three months. It was a rainy Friday night, and I’d made it home from work first. I’d...
Should I Stay or Should I Go? Lust Addiction and the Catholic Marriage
Sep 13, 2023 | Family, Loved One of an Addict, Pornography & Sexual Addiction, Sex/Pornography | 0 Comments
I remember being at a Catholic spirituality conference the summer before I got married. The conference included a time of Eucharistic adoration, and so in the silence of that space, I did what any faithful Catholic fiancée would do and opened up to God about my fears....
Forgiving and Letting Go: How to Heal from Familial Past Wounds in ACDH
Aug 2, 2023 | Adult Children of an Alcoholic, Family, Loved One of an Addict, Spiritual Tools | 0 Comments
Growing up as an adult child of a dysfunctional home (ACDH) can leave lasting emotional scars. One of the most challenging aspects of our journey to healing is confronting painful relationships with controlling, manipulative, and abusive family members. That is why...
Aren’t I Pretty Enough? 3 Things to Remember When You Love a Lust Addict
Jul 26, 2023 | Family, Loved One of an Addict, Pornography & Sexual Addiction, Sex/Pornography | 0 Comments
My forty-sixth birthday had just passed. I looked in the mirror on my husband’s side of the room. He was in the bathroom, and his was the only mirror available. I pressed my fingertips to the sides of my cheeks. There was no denying it: my laugh lines, the parentheses...
If He’s the Porn Addict, Why Do I Need a Recovery Meeting?
Jun 28, 2023 | Family, Loved One of an Addict, Pornography & Sexual Addiction, Sex/Pornography | 0 Comments
When I had been dating my husband for about three months, I told him I was getting concerned about our relationship. I was feeling like he wasn’t listening to me as much as I was listening to him, and I was wondering if we could address this so we could work things...
Did My Mom Cause My Eating Disorder? Faith, Powerlessness, and Recovery
May 3, 2023 | Adult Children of an Alcoholic, Compulsive Eating Behaviors, Family | 0 Comments
I haven’t spoken to my mother in over two decades, but every once in a while, when I’m walking through a rainy parking lot in a pair of jeans, I’ll still hear her voice speak from my memory. I hear her tell me that my legs look like stuffed sausages, just like she did...
The Gift of the Inner “Loving Parent” for Adult Children of Alcoholics
Nov 23, 2022 | Adult Children of an Alcoholic, Family, Loved One of an Addict, Therapy | 0 Comments
For members of Adult Children of Alcoholics (ACA), part of our solution for healing is to become our own loving parents. We do this through 12-step work and by taking a blameless inventory of our caregivers to recognize the wounds that we received from them so that we...
Allowing God to Heal Our Generational and Family Wounds
Mar 16, 2022 | Adult Children of an Alcoholic, Family, God, Loved One of an Addict, Mercy, Prayer, Reconciliation, Spiritual Tools | 0 Comments
As time passes, our recovery brings with it new growth and awareness of God and ourselves. By living a life of honesty, openness, and willingness, God fills our hearts, minds, and spirits with new knowledge and wisdom, or “God thoughts.” For me, these thoughts have...