Relationships

This Is True! The Need for Affirmation from the Community

On my path of recovery, one of the absolute best experiences I have had was my time spent in inpatient rehab. I spent 35 days in a facility in order to receive help for my addiction to pornography. However, to my surprise, I was diagnosed with Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD), and I spent much of…

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Hearing the Voice of God in the Voice of Others

When in the rooms of recovery, you often hear how people are depending on each other for support not only in staying sober, but for handling the difficult situations of life. The Twelve Steps are meant to guide us towards a God-reliance, which can be difficult to have without the help of others. Others Can…

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Lust and Love: Two Sides of the Same Coin

Recently, I have been reflecting on how my addiction to pornography began in the first place. This took me back to a dark place in my life during college, when I had broken up with who I thought was the love of my life, which left me directionless and unstable. I had no passion for…

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Theology of the Body and Recovering from the Harm of Pornography

“Every man who enters a brothel is looking for God.” This quote, attributed to G.K. Chesterton, is one of the foundational concepts of Saint John Paul II’s “Theology of the Body,” which is a collection of talks the pope gave on human sexuality. Theology of the Body (TOB) teaches that in the Garden of Eden…

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Mercy and Glorification in the Wounds of Christ

As I write this, the thought that comes to mind is: “How do you put something so vast, infinite, and truly marvelous as God’s mercy and love into words?” For those of you reading this who may not know me or my story, I am a revert to the Catholic faith. I attended Catholic school…

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You’re More than Just an Addict

A few years ago, I was at a 12-step meeting when one of the members called for a “group conscious.” These are periodically called for in order for the group to talk about the vision, structure, and policies of the group. The “group conscious” must be agreed upon because it allows the group to function…

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Weekly Reflection: Shining Light on the Truth

True relationship with God is rooted in honesty. Honesty with ourselves, with others, and with God. We may recognize that we are engaging in the behavior of our addiction, but are we honest with the consequences of our actions and the division it is creating in our lives? We can approach honesty in different stages…

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You Can't Do It Alone

“Rarely have we seen a person fail who has thoroughly followed our path.”[1] I hear these words read aloud nearly every day, to the point that it sometimes hums through my ears unnoticed like the sound of the wind. When I first got sober and was realizing how important the fellowship of other recovering drunks…

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The Restorative Power of Community

For the longest time I hid from everything. I would hide myself from the reality that my life was unmanageable and that drugs and alcohol had taken everything meaningful away from me. I hid from the outside world, from my responsibilities, and from human interaction. I hid myself from the Light that seemed to shine…

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